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  • Fidget Spinners are Coming to Your App Store

    Fidget Spinners are Coming to Your App Store

    When something becomes trendy in the offline world you can almost guarantee it’ll show up in some digital form. The theory rings true with the latest elementary school kid craze, the Fidget Spinner. While doing my daily scroll through the most popular apps on the Apple App store I noticed a couple of Fidget Spinner games. “Of course!” I said to myself, “it was only a matter of time before the app store tried to cash in on the popularity of the toy trend. Fidget Spinners have caused a lot of conversation among psychologists, sociologists, parents, and educators recently. Everyone seems to be talking about them. My goal was to avoid them on the blog because, “Hey, they aren’t on a smartphone or tablet.” Well, that’s no longer the case.

    Fidget Toys have gained popularity recently as a way to help kids with ADD, ADHD, and anxiety focus during class and other times when they need a longer attention span. Blocks, dice, balls, and other items have served teachers and psychologists well as they help these children excel in their every day tasks. Spinners toys gave another option and even boast in their advertising that they can increase focus and productivity. The problem with that according to some teachers and psychologists is that a good fidget tool will allow you to keep your eyes focused somewhere else while playing with it. This will increase your attention on the speaker or teacher or video simply because your hands are busy. A Spinner’s main benefit is the spinning itself. This spinning must be viewed to be fully enjoyed. This is why many teachers are banning the toys from their classrooms. They are saying the Fidget Spinner is simply a distraction. In a recent CNN story a teacher said:

    We have kids using them in class and the kids nearby are distracted by them. There are kids playing with them (during class) and showing other kids. – CNN

    Many kids have a Fidget Spinner simply because its the latest craze. They don’t need it for focus, its just a toy for them and that’s completely fine. The benefit I’ve heard many parents mention from using the Fidget Spinner as a toy is that it keeps the off of their screens for a longer time. Well, app developers have an answer to that too. Currently, the fasting rising apps on the Apple AND Android app charts are Fidget Spinner games. I downloaded a couple of the iOS games and played for a bit. Here’s how it works.



    What Parents Should Know

    Obviously these apps aren’t dangerous on their own. There is advertising involved, however, and it will most likely not always be geared toward young users. You can also watch ad videos to get coins, the ads were mostly for other free, casual style games. You can pay to get rid of the ads if you’d like. If screen time is a problem then these games could cause some issues. The one I spent the most time on, Spinner, had me trying harder and harder to get more spins out of my spinner. I wanted those coins so I could see what the next spinner design looked like or upgrade my speed. Kids who find themselves hooked on games like this would definitely have the same problem with one of these fidget spinner apps.

    My advice is, as always, to know your child. You have to know if your kid is the type to get hooked on something like this. If they use fidget toys because it helps their attention span then apps like Spinner may not be a good idea since its well known that screen time can cause kids to have more trouble focusing. Let me just finish by saying that these apps are not designed to help your kids with focus or attention. They are simply created to capitalize on the Fidget Spinner craze. In fact, playing the game could take the place of the real spinner altogether for some kids. That just means more screen time, more advertising, and more distraction. We, as parents, have to have the right information and make quality decisions about how our kids spend their time. Hopefully the info in this article can help you take the right steps.

     

  • Why Your Teen Posts Her Feelings On Social Media

    Why Your Teen Posts Her Feelings On Social Media

    I’ve seen them called “vaguebook posts.” It’s the status on social media that hints at some sort of trouble or drama but doesn’t go into detail. It can be annoying to see these things on our Instagram or Facebook feeds but sometimes they’re not just cries for attention, they’re cries for help. Teens are being taught (rightfully so) that it’s better to express their feelings than to hold them inside. Studies are showing that more and more young people are admitting to having bouts with depression, anxiety, and even suicidal thoughts. Social media has become a safe place for them to express how they feel. The problem is that it can often open them up for criticism and unwanted attention. 

    The 12-month prevalence of MDEs (major depressive episodes) increased from 8.7% in 2005 to 11.3% in 2014 in adolescents and from 8.8% to 9.6% in young adults (both P < .001). – Pediatrics Journal Study

    The reasons for these increasing numbers could be related to increased awareness of the symptoms of depression but regardless of the reason, they are statistics that parents should pay attention to. Mental Health professionals are championing more awareness and openness about depression and anxiety. They agree that being outspoken about how you feel can lead to prevention, early detection, and even increase the likelihood of sufferers getting professional help. The problem, however, may be that this transparency is happening in a public forum like Social Media. This is where parents come in.

    What Parents Should Know

    I am not a psychologist  or licensed counselor. I don’t have a professional opinion on the mental health of your teenager. I do, however, have a professional opinion of their activity on Social Media. As a family internet safety expert I see parents struggle to open the lines of communications with their teens. An emotional post on social media should be seen as an open door. There is no more important thing in the life of your young adult or teenager than the ability to be transparent with you about how they feel. If they are posting on social media about depression, anxiety, and especially suicide, it’s time to bring that conversation into a face to face meeting. Posting such transparent posts (even if they’re vague) on social media opens your child up to more bullying and harassment which could be what’s contributing to the problem in the first place. They should be advised to express those thoughts vocally to someone they trust.

    My advice is to start the conversation with your child even before you see any sign of depression. Ask them how they are doing and feeling. Ask them if they feel overwhelmed and if there is anything happening in their lives that you should know about. If you are seeing true signs of these depressive episodes then don’t hesitate to seek out a licensed counselor that can mediate your discussions with your teen. The world they are growing up in is very different than it was even twenty years ago. The standards that kids are asked to live up to are higher. Criticism is more public and the media is teaching messages that conflict with what many of feel is healthy for our kids to believe. This problem is real and it isn’t going to solve itself. We, as parents, have to step up and help our teens make quality decisions when it comes to their feelings and mental health. Take the first step today. Have a conversation.


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